Most of my life I was praised for knowing. So, I became very uncomfortable with uncertainty. Decisions needed to be made right away, I could not take time to just think about it. I thought with certainty came security. However, Hellen Keller said, “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.”
We normally see everything as solid and unchanging: our personality, our emotions, our thoughts, our families, our friends and our world. The more quietly you sit, the more you realize that everything is in a state of change. We want the good and pleasant in our life to remain unchanged. But when we try to hold onto them, we get rope burn.
No one knows what will happen tomorrow. Life is a river of change. Mindfulness is developing the ability to flow with the changes, to see everything as a process of change, to relax with uncertainty. Meditation teaches us how to let go, how to stay centered in the midst of change. Once we see that everything changes and that we create our own suffering by being attached to things staying the same, we realize that relaxing and letting go is a wiser way to live.
One way to let go is to view our thoughts as bubbles on a river. The bubbles have no substance, and can pop in an instant. Our thoughts are constructs we create in our mind. But we often live in these constructs, which may or may not be true, until they pop.
So, embrace uncertainty. You will see the beauty of life, it can be incredibly healing. And you may find a remarkable strength in yourself that you did not know you had.